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Is There Really Balance With Work and Life?

As I watched people speeding from one task to another and facing the daily deluge of ‘work’, I couldn’t help but wonder where all this so-called ‘balance’ was coming into play. The only balance I could see was a scale tipped heavily in one direction, and that was in favor of work, not life. Then as I glanced through the newspaper I was fixated on the latest gas, oil, stock market, and employment numbers. I wasn’t a heavy business buff, but always wanted to get a sense of the world.

Employment was up for a change, a good sign. Then I began to read article, after article on the bad state of full-time employment and the fact that all the new jobs were part-time based. It was a familiar refrain. Somehow, it seemed suspect.

It reminded me of a book I’d read recently by Jacob Vossestein, Dealing with the Dutch, where he argues that people in the Netherlands are highly sceptical of the hierarchical work environment and don’t envy those who climb its rank like Americans, Canadians, or Brits would, whose self-esteem is closely tied to work.

There is an over-emphasis on full-time work which gives the illusion that people are gainfully employed, working, happy and that the economy is a great benefactor. What’s great about this book by Vossestien is that he highlights that the Netherlands actually passed a law that gives employees the right to modify their working hours and organizations can only refuse based on the grounds of sound business reasons. People actually want the ability to modify their working hours so that they have the ‘means’ to create real and meaningful balance in their lives. Results of this law even show that employers believe that they benefited quite well through increased employee satisfaction and it also improved their ability to attract employees.

We can learn from the cultural influences of such countries as the Netherlands, which seems to have found, against all pressure to change them, a recipe for balance that seems to be working. So take solace, getting off the work treadmill isn’t some faraway notion. Instead of looking at these employment ratios as a negative, perhaps we should look at it again through a different lens, as maybe people are taking strides to actually find balance in their lives for a change.

Have you found balance in your life?

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Other Time Trading Gurus

Time

Diane Mottl MSW presents Living an authentic life posted at Being Truly Present.

Flexibility

Ashok Grover presents Ashok Grover posted at Ashok Grover, saying, “All improvement is self improvement. Others can support you, guide you; but the action has to come from oneself to see any improvement!”

Money

Jana presents How To Master Our Finances By Mastering Ourselves posted at Wisdom Ink, saying, “How much money one earns and keeps is a direct reflection of their inner state of being on this topic. Read here to discover more deeply how mastering ourselves can support us in mastering our finances.”

Daniel presents Force Yourself To Save With A 100% Personal Tax posted at Sweating The Big Stuff, saying, “With income taxes, you pay the government for money you earn. But with a personal tax, you pay yourself for money you spend.”

Evan presents It is Amazing How Local Personal Finance Can Be posted at My Journey to Millions, saying, “Most people discuss personal finance rules in absolute terms. I hate it! I truly believe there are almost NO SET PERSONAL FINANCE RULES.”

FI Pilgrim presents Build A Better Budget Part 1 – The Mindset posted at FI Journey, saying, “It pays dividends to think through the process of creating a budget before you get started. What’s the purpose? What does it consist of?”

John Schmoll presents Do You See Money Through the Eyes of the Rich or the Poor? posted at Frugal Rules, saying, “Money and handling finances often comes down to the mindset you have. Is your mindset on the present, or is it on building a better future for yourself? Those that are looking at money through the eyes of the rich, generally speaking, are looking towards the future and always looking for ways to make money work for them and not the other way around.”

DREAM Process

ebele presents Creating the life of your dreams | Street-side convos posted at Street-side convos, saying, “A conversation with successful entrepreneurs on creating the life of your dreams.”

Bryan Chau presents Tips For Succeeding In Life – SuccessPenPal posted at Success Pen Pal – Bryan Chau.

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Six Signs Your Wasting Time

My feet dangled from the pool’s edge caressing the water below while I sipped an iced-cappuccino under the glowing sun. I was relaxed and content. It had taken me some years to get to this point of enjoying life for life’s sake. I began to recount my earlier years when I floundered from one thing to the next without a strong sense of direction or fulfillment. You don’t tend to think about the value of the time you had and how you used it, either wisely or foolishly. I remember times of doubt, wondering if I was wasting my life or if I was garnering new meaning in a direction I didn’t quite know at that time. Somehow I had settled into a life of doldrums caught up in the nine to five grind, repeating it over and over, day after day. I was, to my dismay, just putting in time. Was this waste I thought? Perhaps it was, perhaps not. I had to ask what this time was giving me.

Time is one very precious commodity that should not be wasted. Once it’s used, it’s gone. It needs to be nurtured. How can you tell if you are wasting your time?

Accepting the current normal as all there is: when you are content with the status quo you come to accept your current normal as cast in stone. You will simply allow fate to dictate your future and your life dreams will truly be wasted.

  1. Trying to make amends for the past: if you direct your energy to trying to rectify past mistakes you will certainly be wasting your time. You cannot change the past, but you can determine the future. Focus on what you want to be going forward, not what you could have been in the past.
  2. Focusing only on one thing in life: when you direct all your efforts to one thing in life, and in most cases, people direct all their energy to their job and career ladder to stroke their ego rather than develop relationships, experience life and establish balance.
  3. Spending time on trivial things: devoting too much of your time to trivial things that provide no value to your life only serves to fan the fire of wasted time. You become complacent with not doing what your desires are while using the trivial things as excuses to your lack of time
  4. Trying to be someone else: keeping up with the Joneses is the worst way to waste your time. The energy and money you direct to keep up with a “perception” of what you want to be will not lead you to personal fulfillment. Be who you really are, not who someone else is.
  5. Always chasing the latest and greatest: when you devote your time to picking up the latest gadget or newest car when they come on the market, you are wasting your time and money as this is a never ending cycle. It means that you lack fulfillment and that your happiness is always temporary. Find meaningful things to pursue and you’ll always be happy.

Most people fail to recognize some of these simple routines and go about life wasting their time and then complain that their life is unfulfilled with no time to pursue the things that matter most. Recognize the pitfalls of wasting time as you deserve more than what you think. Stop wasting your time and do the things that will give you lasting happiness.

Have you stopped wasting your time?

Feel free to share your answer in the comments.

Other Time Trading Gurus

Time


FI Pilgrim presents The True Impact Of Lifestyle Choices posted at FI Journey, saying, “Over the next few days I kept thinking about the word lifestyle and the far-reaching impact that it has on our lives (and finances).”

Flexibility


Jana presents How Ideas Solve Issues and Challenges, And How To Make Yourself Available For Them : Wisdom Ink Magazine posted at Wisdom Ink, saying, “The key to problem solving in business, especially when time is a major factor, is having problem-solving ideas. But often we are more familiar with focusing on the problem instead of focusing on a solution. This article shows how a person can make themselves available for more solutions and solve problems and challenges more quickly and efficiently.”

Shaun Rosenberg presents 7 Extremely Obvious Reasons to Become an Optimist posted at Shaun Rosenberg, saying, “When managing your schedule and going through life you can either look at the world as a positive place or a negative place. While it may be easier to have a negative view on the world, having a positive one will help you out more in life.”
Jon Rhodes presents Why you are a slave to your job posted at Bitched Up.

Money


John Schmoll presents When Should You Start Saving for Retirement? posted at Frugal Rules, saying, “Saving for retirement can be challenging for many. There are many excuses to use from not having enough money to it being too far away. However, by starting to save for retirement earlier rather than later, regardless of the amount, you put yourself in the best position possible.”

Bryan Chau presents Think And Grow Rich Secret – Exposed! posted at Success Pen Pal, saying, “self improvement, success, personal development, think and grow rich, napoleon hill, free ebook, etc.”

Other

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4 Obstacles to Overcome in Reaching Goals

The smell of freshly baked scones and the aroma of dark roasted coffee beans permeated the air as I relaxed in a leather chair tucked inconspicuously in the corner of the cafe. With notebook in hand, I was jotting down free flowing ideas that would, perhaps someday, bloom into dreams and goals for me to attain. The goals themselves were quite easy to generate. The challenge was always in maintaining the energy necessary to realize them. Nothing is ever perfect. Even a bird in flight must adjust its height and fine tune its direction as the winds blow across its wings.

Adjusting our goals allows us to reduce or eliminate tensions that can build in the pursuit of the goal itself. It allows us to establish a manageable threshold of change. Adjustment gives us the ability to overcome the following:

  • White noise—People who are hard of hearing experience what is called tinnitus, a ringing noise in the ears that overwhelms all other sounds a person may hear. When we’re constantly thinking about other things, they ring louder than the things we need to focus on. Constantly adjusting our goals limits or reduces this clutter.
  • Exhaustion—Driving toward our goals full-steam ahead can both mentally and physically exhaust us; however, if we move toward our goals at a steady pace and course correct along the way we reserve our energy for the entire journey.
  • Induced guilt—When we commit ourselves to too many goals we soon realize that we can’t do all of it. Ensuring that we take time to adjust permits us to recognize this overzealousness and refocus our goals accordingly.
  • Strained relationships—When we turn all our attention to our goals, and only our goals, we begin to hurt the very relationships that we’ve invested in as a part of our lives. We need to always ensure that we make the room necessary for those who matter in our lives, and by adjusting our goals along the way we’ll ensure balance to the human dimensions of our lives.

Adjusting your goals will allow you to become sensitized to your inner state and let you observe your progress more objectively. It also gives you time to reflect on which goals are really priorities or, in fact, if they’re still a worthy goal. This will give you back precious time that you can use more effectively to re-harness into other goals or into your relationships.

Have you adjusted your goals to stay on track?

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Other Time Trading Gurus

Time

Brianna Sieberg presents Mindfulness: Why Do We Need It? posted at zen-ful.net, saying, “Read this blog for more information about why mindfulness is needed now.”

Flexibility

FI Pilgrim presents The True Impact Of Lifestyle Choices posted at FI Journey.

Jana presents 5 Ways People Participate in Stressful Situations & What They Can Do To Experience Peace : Wisdom Ink Magazine posted at Wisdom Ink, saying, “When we become aware whether or not we are ‘participating’ in a stressful situation unnecessarily, we can choose to shift our focus to something more worthwhile such as our work or goals. The thing is that many people are unaware if and when they are ‘participating’ in a stressful situation and what they can do about it. Here are 5 ways people participate in Stressful situations.”

Money

gmeinna presents 5 Summer Business Ideas While Working Full-Time posted at BobbyFinance.

Julieta Arteaga presents Why Branding Is Important For A Lasting Business Success posted at Have Fun and Profit, saying, “Do you want to be the customer’s first choice every time they think about a specific product? To make it happen you need to create plans and strategies that will help you build a strong brand. Well planned strategies will create strong perception about your product, which is commonly known as branding.”

Evan presents The Detroit Bankruptcy Should Teach You that Nothing is Guaranteed with your Finances posted at My Journey to Millions, saying, “Detroit\\\’s recent bankruptcy should teach you something about risk and your personal finances and retirement. Real possibility of reduction in pension and trimming of bonds”

Bryan Chau presents Great Ideas For Making Money Online – Internet Careers Options posted at Success Pen Pal, saying, “make money online, business ideas, marketing, success, passive income, entrepreneurship, etc.”

DREAM Process

Jon Rhodes presents Why You Hate Your Job posted at Affiliate Help!, saying, “This article gives you plenty of reasons why you probably hate your job. Use this for motivation to get out!”

Jeru presents What’s your goal in life? posted at AuxBreak.com.

Kurt Kazmierczak presents The One Thing You Can Do, Today, To Succeed! posted at Life, Love & Money, saying, “I wrote this because it is an under discussed skill that I see in every successful person I’ve ever talked with. Develop it in yourself and the sky is the limit!”

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