Monthly Archives: July 2013

7 Questions to Ignite Goals

The sun was beaming through the leafy trees that formed a canopy over the pool and a subtle breeze whisked by my head as I sat quietly in the wooden Adirondack chair. My backyard is one of the smallest in the neighborhood, but it is delectably full of plants, shrubs, and trees that spawn peacefulness and relaxation. This was my getaway, and happily only a few footsteps away from the back door. I had dreamed of this break for weeks, with no intention but to stay put and chill out. As I revelled in this backyard oasis, I couldn’t help but to think of the hapless souls who couldn’t find the motivation to tear themselves away from the confines of their cubicles, even for one day.

Goals give us strength and at the same time they fuel our strength. And to be successful our goals need to have motivation behind them to exalt the motivating strength for us to believe in the goal and thus direct our energy to realizing it. I realized that those folks in the office had absolutely none of this.

Finding goals to aspire are not really that complicated. Dreaming will generate excitement in your life and bring you fulfillment that you’ve been lacking. The way to ignite this excitement is to ask questions, such as the following:

1. Challenge yourself to do what’s meaningful to you. What I’ll do to challenge myself_____________.
2. Don’t be afraid to push yourself beyond your comfort level. This will help you grow and will excite your senses. What I’ll do to push myself beyond my comfort level_________________.
3. Understand what makes you comfortable. What makes me uncomfortable in adopting change_________.
4. Identify what you always wanted to do but were afraid to do it. What I’ve always wanted to do______________.
5. Determine what motivates you in life. What’s my motivation for change_______________.
6. Make the goal the right time now. What will make this the right time___________________.
7. Understand what gives you enjoyment in life. What do I enjoy most in life that provides me comfort________.

We can escape the fact that change in our lives will happen. Goal setting helps you become a driver not a passenger in life. So, asking yourself these questions will help you understand what stands in your way in identifying and attaining your goal.

Challenge yourself honestly and you’ll realize that the mental roadblocks you put in your way are only that, a mental block. By understanding it, you can isolate it, then overcome it. This process will help you find the passion, desire, and motivation to take the necessary steps toward reaching your goals.

Have you answered your question yet?
Feel free to share your answer in the comments.

Other Time Trading Gurus


Vincent Nguyen presents 40 Things I Wish I Knew Sooner (The Compact Guide to Life) – Self Stairway posted at Self Stairway.


Phil Byrne presents 5 Excellent Resources for Finding Friends Abroad posted at Live Work Abroad.

Jon Rhodes presents Why you are a slave to your job posted at Bitched Up, saying, “This article shows you why most jobs are no more than contracts of slavery. Can you break these chains?”


Martin Poldma presents How to Be a Successful Entrepreneur posted at Success and Personal Development Blog, saying, “Hi, This blog post that I have recently written is all about how to succeed in business and about how to become a great entrepreneur, who truly is able to make a difference in the world with all the products and services he is providing.

Jana presents Being Rested: How It Sets You & Everyone Around You Up For Success posted at Blog, saying, “It has been proven time and time again that when we set ourselves up for success by taking care of our needs first, eating, sleeping, resting, rejuvenating, etc., this shows up in our work results. Here we discover why rest is crucial to experiencing great results in work and what you can do to take better care of yourself.”

DREAM Process

personal growth project presents Optimism vs Idealism: Keeping Your Dreams in Touch With Reality posted at Personal Growth Project Blog, saying, “A comparison of different types of mindsets and the best way to use your focus to achieve your dreams and be successful in life.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of
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Four Mistakes People Make with Their Goal

In the afternoon my friends and I gathered at the local watering hole for some beers and conversation. It had been quite a few months since we last saw each other, but it didn’t stop the friendly banter, nor did it reduce our drive to challenge each other on what we’d been up to. Each of us recited the mundane things that occupied our time, followed by the things we could only desire.

I was struck by how easily everyone had given up on the things they actually dreamed of doing. The excuses, of course, were endless. Too many things to do around the house, no time off work, the kids to look after, too much work at the office. It was sadly familiar.

Goals, I thought, shouldn’t be like some picture that you hang on the wall, only to reminisce and day dream about. They, by their very nature represent our inner desires and are the fuel that propels us through life. It allows us to focus our mental and physical energy like a funnel to those things that motivate and excite us. For those people without goals, they tend to wander aimlessly and blame others for their failure–for them life is a series of happenstances precariously strung together.

Making ourselves accountable for our own actions and future is at the cornerstone of goal-setting and this is the key point that separates one who believes in their goal from one that doesn’t. When we commit ourselves to an objective, we in turn make ourselves accountable to make it happen. And understanding why we have the goal commits us emotionally and physically to see it through. The important thing to note here is that our goals are accountable to only ourselves, no one else. As such, we have only ourselves to blame for our failure to motivate ourselves to achieve it. It allows us to reach beyond our self-contained realities

There are several mistakes that people make with their goal:

  • Recasting the Past: When people set goals, sometimes they turn to the past and try and play catch up on all the things they wished for. This is a self-defeating game, one that should be thrown into the waste basket. Take a few minutes, forgive yourself for your past weaknesses, and move on.
  • Too many goals: One key fact that you need to learn and embrace is that we can’t do it all. The same thing applies to goal-setting. Too many goals will only result in disappointment. You’ll expend all your energy well before the finish line if you overwhelm yourself with too many competing interests. Goals are a journey, and you need to limit your focus to ensure your success.
  • Keeping goals to yourself: The support of others is part of our support network. It’s our energy reservoir where we go to remind ourselves of our passion to the goals we set and to embolden us through challenging times. Too often people keep their goals to themselves, limiting their ability to gain support or to celebrate their success.
  • No clarity: Too many people define goals too broadly rendering it difficult to know how to achieve it. How many times have you heard people say, “My goal is to make lots of money.” This sounds great, but how much money? By when? By doing what to gain the money? It’s important to add context and clarity to our goals, as this gives them meaning and understanding.

Don’t make these mistakes in the pursuit of your goals and don’t allow yourself to reminisce. Take control of your dream and begin to realize that you actually do have the power to succeed–it’s within you.

Have you learned from your mistakes?

Feel free to share your answer in the comments.

Other Time Trading Gurus


Vincent Nguyen presents What Happens When You Get Stuck Wondering What If posted at Self Stairway.

Jeru presents How well do you handle stress? posted at, saying, “The article was written for call center agents around the world who struggles everyday dealing with stress.”


Medo Joe presents How I started Making Money Online When I had No Clue – The Story posted at Work Online From Home Free, saying, “Starting your financial life from zero capital and zero knowledge might seem really challenging. But the fact that it actually happened, made this story a must-read, especially if you’re skeptic about starting a business online. This post tells exactly how I got beat and bitten through my way to a little less than 2k a month using multiple income streams.”

John Schmoll presents How to Become Rich the Right Way posted at Frugal Rules, saying, “Many are looking for ways to get rich quick and attain financial independence. The problem is that really is not a realistic expectation. To truly build wealth, it takes hard work, a long term mindset and willingness to diversify so you can build wealth that lasts.”

DREAM Process

Jonny presents Smart Blog: 1 Minute a day Goal posted at Smart blog.

Kimberly Raya presents “How To Create Your Dream Life” For Beginners (Or more specifically, Escape The Cubicle Farm) posted at Let Me Reach, saying, “This is an article designed to motivate people to get on the track of becoming self-employed.”

Kimberly Raya presents How To Realize Your Dream posted at Let Me Reach.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of
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5 Ways to Realize Your Goals

My wife and I wanted to spruce up the tired exterior of home. After fifteen years it was beginning to look a little ragged and time worn. In the afternoon we grabbed our camera and jumped into the car to scrounge the neighborhood for ideas. Not feeling particularly satisfied with cookie-cutter homes nearby we decided to detour toward the more expensive neighborhoods. We figured that their big homes would give us a good inspirational start.

As expected the homes had incredible curb appeal, and without a doubt completely out of our price range to contemplate. I couldn’t help but think of how these people came to have such expansive, rich homes. Inheritance? I thought. Perhaps. But, I thought a well executed plan and solid goal was likely the real reason.

So how do you reach a goal? Constant measurement and adjustment lead to success. Even though you may have established a goal, determined a realistic time frame for the goal, prepared yourself to meet the goal, and received assurance from your support network, the drive toward the goal can only come about by measuring the actions you’ve taken in seeking the goal.

Adjustment is simply the act of adapting or accommodating one thing or another. Adjustment gives you the following:

  1. manage your progress / re-evaluation
  2. keep your goal in focus / perspective
  3. keep connected to the energy supplying goal attainment
  4. maintain your flexibility to ensure your options are always available
  5. get the right road map—always refer to your directions so you don’t stray the course

So, for instance, if you have a goal to save $20,000 in two years, it’s obviously important to measure your progress. When you find that it’s too difficult, then you must either re-assess the actions you’re taking to realize the goal or to re-evaluate the goal itself. It could be that two years isn’t a realistic timeframe or that your needs and wants are not aligned properly to meet your goal, or that you’ve failed to receive the level of assurance that you need, or worse yet, that it’s not really a goal that you wanted in the first place. No goal is attained without first going through some adjustment. Change around us is constant, so we need to constantly assess where we are.

Developing a strong support mechanism is vital to your success in attaining your goals. Use your wife, husband, siblings, friends, and the like to give you the mental energy needed to realize your goals. There will be those days when you begin to second guess yourself when you question your ability to continue on. Having the ability to tap into support when you need it is important to keep you on track. Your support mechanism can also be self-prescribed. Write yourself inspirational quotes or reminders of why the goal is important to you and read them when you need them.

Have you take the steps to realize your goals?
Feel free to share your answer in the comments.

Other Time Trading Gurus


Connie S presents The Easiest Path from Point A to Point B — Curioses posted at Curioses.


Tipsy presents Sometimes Not Saying Anything Is Better Than Talking At All posted at tipsywriter, saying, “If you’ve ever felt regret over something you’ve said in the past, then you understand the feeling of wishing you had just kept your mouth shut. Learning to just listen is one of the greatest skills you can develop for yourself and those relationships around you.”

Toni presents Working Mom Woes: Tips on how to cope posted at Wifely Steps, saying, “Working away from your kids can be tough sometimes. Here are some tips on how to cope with working mom blues.”


gmeinna presents Money And Relationships: 6 Tips To Help Couples Manage Their Finances posted at BobbyFinance.

Ellen Sweeney presents Credit Card Debt: Why am I always broke? by Ellen Sweeney posted at Mobile Well Being, saying, “Get out of debt. It’s really important to do.”

DREAM Process

Martin Poldma presents If You Believe it, Then You Can Achieve it posted at Success and Personal Development Blog, saying, “Hi, My name is Martin Poldma and I am a blogger on success and personal development. In this post I explain how important it is to believe in ourselves and that we can achieve everything we set our mind to. I provide many examples from the past when people have been able to do the impossible over and over again.”

personal growth project presents 100 Breaths Meditation: The Mental Massage posted at Personal Growth Project Blog, saying, “A simple meditation technique to ease your mind and relax your body after a difficult day.”

Bryan Chau presents Your Daily Lists To Living A Life Of Bliss posted at Success Pen Pal, saying, “self-improvement, gratitude, journals, lists, fourth of july, independence day, success, etc.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of
work life balance and goal setting using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.