Monthly Archives: February 2013

Putting Conditions on Time

The most frustrating thing in managing time is the fact that others do not respect it. The challenge lies in managing people’s expectations. To be successful it is important to re-set others expectations about your time.

Effectively, you need to condition others to how you want time to be managed. No, this is not some impossible notion. The answer lies in simple behaviorial techniques developed by Ivan Petrovich Pavlov, a Russian physiologist, who discussed the notion of conditioning through his research on the digestive system of dogs and the study of what signals triggered the secretion of saliva. He conditioned the dogs to produce saliva by the ringing of a bell just prior to the provision of food. The dogs were being conditioned to produce saliva solely upon the sound of the bell. This was referred to as a conditioned reflex. Like Pavlov, you can condition those around you to follow a new learned behavior, one that you’ve created. In this instance a new expected behavior in how to respond to your time.

Time suckers include things like meetings and emails–the worst offenders of all. Email has become both a useful and inhibitive tool ever used in the office. It sets up unrealistic expectations. How many times have you received an email, only to receive a follow-up questioning why you haven’t yet responded to the email? Likely, too often indeed.

You can use email to your advantage to re-condition them. If, for example, you receive phone calls, respond back by email or if you receive an email respond back only at predefined times during the day. Part of the conditioning process is to be consistent in your response to maintain the conditioned behavior. This is a mighty powerful tool, one that they’ve been using on you all along, as they conditioned you to immediately respond to them. What you’re doing is breaking your conditioned response and redirecting the conditioning back to them. Most often, they won’t even realize what you’ve done, since they’re only acting in a conditioned way.

This simple act alone will result in re-setting others expectations on your time. It may take a few weeks for people to actually believe it, but first and foremost, never, and I mean, never, immediately respond to an email! The desire and habit may be high, but you need to get people conditioned, yes conditioned, to realize that you’re not in existence to serve them at their whim and pleasure. You have a job to do and you need to control the aspects of the job. I’ve been successful with this simple act alone.

Be selfish with your time or others will use and abuse it and all at your expense.

Are you putting conditions on your time?

Feel free to share your answer in the comments.

 

Other Time Trading Gurus

Time

Steve Jackson presents 25 Hacks that Will Give Your More Time in Your Day posted at Housekeeping, saying, “Saving a few seconds here and there throughout the day may not seem like it makes that much of a difference, but consistently practicing time-saving habits can add up.”

Jon Rhodes presents Timebox To Get Things Done posted at Affiliate Help!, saying, “This article shows you the concept of timeboxing, and describes how it can help you get more done.”

Shaun Rosenberg presents What If You Had More Free Time? | Shaun Rosenberg posted at Shaun Rosenberg.

Flexibility

Diego Brown presents A Mom’s Guide to Balancing Work and Family posted at National Nannies.

Elina presents Expression of inside hero! posted at Bring back fun to the work.

Money

Peter J. Buscemi presents What Should be in a Marketing Plan : Four Quadrant posted at Four Quadrant, saying, “There are many formats as there are marketing plans, as there should be, as each is created from a unique environment and is focused on providing results that are specific to an organization at a point in time.”

Jana presents How to Increase Sales The Holistic WayWisdom Ink posted at Blog, saying, “How To Increase Sales The Holistic Way”

John Schmoll presents Taking the Plunge: Why I Love Being Self-Employed posted at Frugal Rules, saying, “Running your own business has its shares of pros and cons and is not for the faint of heart. I love being self-employed because of the freedom it brings as well as being able to see direct results from my hard work.”

Cherry Liu presents How to Save Money on Your Cable Bill When Times are Tight posted at House Sitting Jobs.

Isabella Harriss presents 14 Reliable Ways to Make Money from Home posted at Nanny News Network.

DREAM Process

Lena Ameri presents 9 Mistakes That Prevent You From Reaching Your Goals posted at Liveit! Magazine, saying, “Have you been sticking to your New Year’s resolution? Let’s be honest, the harsh truth is that while everyone sets goals, most people don’t actually reach the goals they set. Don’t be frustrated, read this article to find out the 9 common mistakes that prevent you from reaching your goals.”

Jonathan Grant presents How Do You Know God is Real? posted at Questions & Answers About Life, saying, “Is God real? How can we know?”

Jana presents Finding Peace In Our Day-To-Day LivesWisdom Ink posted at Wisdom Ink.

David Leonhardt presents Stay grounded or reach for the stars? posted at Self-Help Happiness Blog.

Embracing Change

Recently it occurred to me that life should be enjoyed by leveraging opportunities. And this leveraging of opportunities drives positive change in our lives. Opening your mind to new ideas and desires focuses your mind on the endless possibilities in front of you instead of the limitations that most of us tend to dwell on.

Why do some people seem to be lucky and others not so lucky? Why do some people always seem to be in the right place at the right time? It’s not luck; it’s because they’ve opened their mind to new possibilities, and they’ve prepared themselves to be aware of the opportunities, so that when they arise, they can act upon them.

Most often people don’t want to do things, not because they can’t do new things, it’s because change is something that scares some people. Yet, for others it’s something to be embraced. Welcoming change leads one to build the courage to experience life in a new way, one that will lead to positive outcomes.

When we’re born, we’re very much a helpless organism dependent on the help of others to survive. We adopt and conform to the societal norms, and the more we interact with others, we become more aware and modify our behaviors in accordance with others responses. These interactions familiarize us and usually make us skilled enough to live. However, to time traders you must change the paradigm and focus on the individual, which is you. You need to develop your self-identity. Understanding what makes “me” will allow you to take control, thus ensuring that it’s you who is accountable and responsible for your destiny, not someone else and certainly not left up to the happenstances of life.

Reaching the fulfillment of your dreams comes in taking responsibility for your own destiny, which in turn, empowers you to shape your future according to your vision. Successful people actively control their future; they don’t look for other people or circumstances to determine the path of their future. Rather, they control and determine their own destiny. Successful people are also persistent in their drive to realize their goals. Most people have goals, but few successfully attain them because they lose interest when their goals don’t materialize as quickly as they had anticipated.

Coupled with a strong sense of self-confidence and self-esteem, successful people are able to manifest opportunities into personal success. If you believe in yourself, others will see that and believe in you. Moreover, this aura of confidence gives you the ability to live with a strong sense of purpose. You do things because you want to achieve your goals. You’re simply achieving your goals by leveraging other people’s strengths, skills, and network; things that you may be lacking. At the same time you’re providing your skills and strengths to them.

Not all of us achieve our goals at the outset. Sometimes we face setbacks. The difference in being successful in attaining your goals isn’t letting setbacks take you off track. Setbacks are a natural occurrence in life. How we deal with it is the key that separates a successful person from one who is not. Most setbacks are usually accompanied by opportunities, so it’s important to remain focused. And most important, if you find the courage to embrace change you will see and leverage opportunities emerging in front of you.

Are you ready to embrace your change?

Feel free to share your answer in the comments.

Other Time Trading Gurus

Time

Stefani Yorges, Ph.D. presents Think You Don’t Have Time for Personal Meetings with Each Direct Report? Think Again posted at Center for the Advancement of Positive Leaders, saying, “Scheduling private 1:1 sessions with each of your direct reports on a regular basis is important. These meetings provide clarity, reduce uncertainty, and establish ground rules for your relationship and future performance.

But one hour meetings once a month with each direct report equals a LOT of time. If you have 8-10 people reporting to you, that means a minimum of 8 hours face-to-face meetings plus prep time. Some leaders strive for bi-weekly meetings with each direct report, doubling the time required.

Because of the time and effort involved, these meetings are often relegated to the low priority list — if they make it on the calendar at all.

Before you cancel again, read on. A recent study showed that you can actually SAVE time by keeping these meetings.”

Patrick Brett presents 4 Productivity and Time Management Techniques posted at Patrick Brett, saying, “Describes in detail four techniques you can use to maximize your time and make the most out of your life.”

Flexibility

Jonathan Grant presents What is Wisdom? posted at Questions & Answers About Life, saying, “Wisdom is one of the number one things we should seek in life. But, is it something we can obtain? Are we conditioning our kids to not be wise?”

Patrick Brett presents 4 Weeks to a Better You posted at Patrick Brett, saying, “This post describes a method for habit change I like to call “4 week trials”.”

Money

Peter J. Buscemi presents What Should be in a Marketing Plan : Four Quadrant posted at Four Quadrant, saying, “There are many formats as there are marketing plans, as there should be, as each is created from a unique environment and is focused on providing results that are specific to an organization at a point in time.”

Tom presents Working At Home On The Internet… The TRUTH! posted at Tom Glover, saying, “Throughout this article, YOU will learn the truth behind Working At Home On The Internet. You will also understand what you should expect when starting to work from home, and how to avoid many “Get Rich Quick” Scams.”

Jon Rhodes presents How To Save Money AND Improve Your Life posted at Affiliate Help!, saying, “There are ways to save money and at the same time improve your life. Here’s how to do it.”

William presents >Non-Loan Reasons You Need Good Credit posted at Card Guys Blog, saying, “Even if you never get a loan, your credit may be the subject of intense interest from those who provide financial services. In some cases, you still need good credit to make the most of your money.”

Elisabeth Wright presents Crazy Ways Extreme Cheapskates Save Money posted at Vitamins and Minerals, saying, “If you caught the 2012 episode of Extreme Cheapskates featuring Victoria Hunt, you either got sick or got inspired.”

Gmeinna presents 8 Tips to Start Your Business While Working Full-time posted at BobbyFinance.

DREAM Process

Sulagna Dasgupta presents What Are You Chasing? posted at Love in India, saying, “Are you sure you’re not neglecting your loved ones ’cause you’re too busy chasing material success? In case you’ve muddled up your priorities – and consequently your work life balance – this article should act as a timely reminder to you to put your people where they belong – at the centre of your life.”

Frances presents Power of Positivity posted at Ramblings of a Teenager, saying, “Article expressing the true power of positivity.”

Jon Rhodes presents Change a Habit in 28 Days posted at HypnoBusters, saying, “Here’s how to change any habit in just 28 days.”

Patrick Brett presents Setting Goals You Will Actually Achieve posted at Patrick Brett, saying, “All about goal-setting using the SMART method.”

Darcy presents Are You Afraid Of Success | FeelingSuccess posted at FeelingSuccess.

What Happiness is

Looking out the window of the coffee shop, I can’t stop from thinking about what happiness means. I see people engaging in jovial discussions, others seemingly inwardly collapsing, and yet, I have a happy smile as I glance around. Maybe it’s the aroma of the coffee beans or the sweet smell of the pastries. I’m not sure. But, what I do know is that this time trading pursuit today has brought me some peace.

What I’ve realized is that happiness is really a virtue of the goals we set for ourselves and our motivations for attaining them. I used to think that happiness was routed in money, but here I am, with less than $5 in my pocket for the week and hey I’m happy and I don’t sense that I’d be feeling any different if I had a million dollars in my pocket. It’s interesting how this simple moment has parlayed itself to my broader view on life.

Goals are not about money! They have more meaning to us than simply a monetary value. They’re internal and drive us to want to seek them and the resulting pleasure that comes with attaining it. To a large degree our happiness is measured as our subjective well-being. We simply ask ourselves if we’re happy. But the answer is more complicated than stating that we are, in fact, happy. Our answer implicitly takes into account our environment or inputs and determines if we’ve satisfied our desires. If we have, then we’re happy; if we haven’t, then we’re not happy.  Seems simple enough when you strip away the complexities we tend to attach to it.

As I scan through some old magazines on the rack, I notice that 1995-2007 OECD World Values Survey places the top five countries with the happiest citizens as:

  • Denmark
  • Puerto Rico
  • Colombia
  • Iceland
  • Northern Ireland

What’s interesting to note is that Canada, the U.S.A., Japan, the U.K., and other European countries aren’t at the top of the list, yet they’re some of the wealthiest countries in the world. Two of the top happiest countries are quite poor, Puerto Rico and Colombia, yet they have the happiest citizens. Why is that? It’s because happiness isn’t defined in monetary terms, rather how we interpret the satisfaction of our desires. In the end, these countries are happy because they’re able to leverage their goals more effectively to satisfy their needs. In essence, our goals frame our outcomes and lead us to become motivated in reaching our desires.

Challenging our values and belief systems is good for the soul. I remember having my conventional notions of happiness shattered on a meandering walk through a barrio in the city of Quito. Happiness, I felt, came largely from financial freedom. After all, if I was financially well off, I surmised, I’d be happy. Quite simply, this is a collective notion held by the majority of people. Yet, in this barrio, people were clearly happy. The children were kicking around a ball, dogs were running freely about, people were talking and socially engaged, all oblivious to the abject poverty surrounding them.

When you think about it, our level of happiness is processed in regard to our environment, comparisons to others past experiences, and future expectations. We utilize this core system to think and derive our being. In the end, we all tend to evaluate our life against subjectively defined beliefs or perceptions of society. This is probably why I incorrectly assumed the people in the barrio were unhappy. They may have been severely economically disadvantaged, but they were certainly happy; much happier than I was at the time.

And, so here I am. Sitting in a coffee shop, happy.

Have you found your happiness?

Feel free to share your answer in the comments.

Other Time Trading Gurus

Time


Socratez presents How To Start A Productive Day posted at Socratez Online.


John presents Work and Life Balance – Create More Time for Your Life posted at Fearless Men.

Flexibility

Jon Rhodes presents How To Save Money AND Improve Your Life posted at Affiliate Help!, saying, “There are ways to save money and at the same time improve your life. Here’s how to do it.”

Frances presents Power of Positivity posted at Ramblings of a Teenager, saying, “Article expressing the true power of positivity.”

Rodney Maley presents 8 Little Ways to Add Variety to Your Life posted at Life-fficient.

Money

Peter J. Buscemi presents What Should be in a Marketing Plan : Four Quadrant posted at Four Quadrant, saying, “There are many formats as there are marketing plans, as there should be, as each is created from a unique environment and is focused on providing results that are specific to an organization at a point in time.”

Tom presents Working At Home On The Internet… The TRUTH! posted at Tom Glover, saying, “Throughout this article, YOU will learn the truth behind Working At Home On The Internet. You will also understand what you should expect when starting to work from home, and how to avoid many “Get Rich Quick” Scams.”

William presents Make Credit Card Spending Part of Your Budget posted at Card Guys Blog.

DREAM Process

Jon Rhodes presents Change a Habit in 28 Days posted at HypnoBusters, saying, “Here’s how to change any habit in just 28 days.”

Jonathan Grant presents What is Wisdom? posted at Questions & Answers About Life, saying, “Wisdom is one of the number one things we should seek in life. But, is it something we can obtain? Are we conditioning our kids to not be wise?”