The DREAM Process

Is Success Overrated?

The aroma of freshly baked bread filled the air in the pastry shop and was complemented with the Colombian hazelnut flavored coffee bean smell that tickled your nose with sweet sensations. The fireplace provided a warm and soothing spot to sink into a leather chair, read a book, and savor a specialty drink. This place was heavenly bliss.

I became absorbed in people watching, noticing people driving by in fancy cars, others dressed to the nines, some with expensive watches, and yet others seemingly like me, just normal folks with no bling but all smiles.

Somehow I just wasn’t intrigued by all the fanciful things these people had. To me they projected an air of fakeness. I began to wonder if they were happy with all these material things. Likely they were, but how happy would they be if they suddenly lost all these material possessions. Would they be happy then? I doubted it. Then how real is happiness and success in these material things? They bring about only a false sense of success, one that can quickly erode. It erodes because we think that it makes us significant. We want to be something so we tend to define ourselves with the material things around us instead of things that are meaningful. So, when we lose these possessions or these things are not as fanciful as other people’s possessions we direct more energy to acquire bigger and better things.

Our culture over-promotes success. It seems that everything has to be related to success. But, success is simply a favorable result. Those who are brave define what success is within real and meaningful things. I’d forgo a new fancy car for the chance to sit more often in a café like this. At least this experience of pleasure fills me with more success as a human being than a fancy car that’ll be outdated in a year or two.

Experiences bring us personal fulfillment of which no material thing can ever replace. Memories last forever. This is such a simple notion that most tend to forget as they try to placate a temporary compulsive desire through the acquisition of material things. How many outfits have you bought because you wanted to feel important or that you felt projected success? Now do you still wear them today? Likely not. You probably bought new clothes, endlessly trying to maintain this “sense” of success. Sadly, it’s a futile process. You’ll never be satisfied because material things do not project any real sense of success only a short-sighted image of success. If we focused instead on meaningful things to define our success we’d all be extremely successful and very happy with our lives. I’m successful because I have a loving family and life experiences. I have things, but they don’t define me. I define myself instead in the experiences I live and the relationships I build. This simply philosophy has allowed me to become extremely successful as a result and no material thing can ever replace it

Have you found your success?


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Zen and the Art of Letting Go

The sun edged over the horizon and light flakes of snow fluttered in the wind. The outdoor fire crackled and pine scented smoked permeated the air. While my family remained in their sleepy state, my dog and I were enjoying the freshness of the outside air and the solitude of the yard. It was a chance to think about what I wanted to do going forward for the year. But, before I could move forward I had to abandon things that I had been doing. I was laboring on all the sunk costs I’d invested and found it painful to move forward. I felt that by walking away from these investments in emotion, time, and money it would indicate that I was a failure. A thought I simply could not bear.

People are reluctant to walk away from the investments they’ve made typically because they cling illogically to the time or money already invested – my feelings certainly echoed this sentiment. Then I remembered that the key to resisting this phenomenon is mindfulness. Mindfulness is about being aware of your existence as it is in the moment. Some people facilitate this through meditation, others simply by closing their eyes and breathing, still others by finding a quiet spot to sit and contemplate. You can choose your way. This intense focus shuts out the noise of life around you and actually lets you think clearly. It’s not about analyzing every aspect of your decision, or to determine options. It’s simply about becoming aware of your existence, to open your mind and to free it from all the restrictions you have placed upon it.

This new found freedom permits you to recognize that sunk costs are just that. They’re investments that you’ve made that didn’t yield expected results. As they did not yield expected results, then by continuing to cling to these actions, you can only expect to receive the same unexpected results. The logical step forward then is to abandon these actions and to chart a new course. We cling unnecessarily to many failed investments in life: relationships, jobs, financial investments, and the like. If we are to truly be happy we must resist the temptation to justify past actions. Practice mindfulness and let it go!

Once you’ve embraced this self-realization, then you can leverage your new found power to set and achieve new goals in your life and to stop being afraid to change course.

Have you become more mindful?

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Thoughts Lead to Dreams

The smoke filled ambers released the comforting smell of wood into the air, its crackling sound begging me to lean ever so closer to bathe in the fire’s delight. A hot tea in hand, a wool sweater snuggly wrapping my body, and a smile on my face reminded me of the solace and warmth of the moment. I had no notebook in hand, but my mind nonetheless was allowed to wander unrestrained. Thoughts flickered in and out until one took root and began to grow. I nurtured the thought, ever so gently adding new ideas and permitting my mind to simply just go with it. I hadn’t had a moment like this for some time and relished the resulting euphoria.
I added another piece of wood to keep the flames alive and to continue to fuel the blissful state I was in. The cool breeze was welcome, so too were the birds that joined in as they nestled themselves in the pine bows draped beside me.

Thinking for the sake of thinking is an art, not just for the wise, but the curious. Too often we allow the noise of life to restrict our senses and to distract us from gaining insightful knowledge about our selves. Dreams that we aspire for in life come from these very thoughts. Without them, we cannot dream.

A dream is a higher state of unconsciousness and goal-setting is the conscious actions we take to realize those dreams. The realization of those dreams provides us with a positive effect, pride, satisfaction, and ultimately personal fulfillment. This in turn leads to purpose and purpose is the guiding principle all humans seek! So goal-setting is our key to purpose. We just need to know how to use it to open those doors that lead us to where we want to go.

The process to understanding the realization of your dreams is quite simple. All you have to do is follow the DREAM process. You need to Develop Awareness. This is the initial stages of allowing yourself to imagine. This is where I was today, out in the cold, gleaning what I could from the warmth and smell of the fire to fuel my thoughts and generate dreams.

The second step is Realize Understanding , the process of adding substance to your thoughts. Express Knowledge is where things become real and plans are developed. Assist Belief is the crucial step whereby our motivation leads us to opportunities. And, finally, Make Realizable is the sustained stage where we’re on the journey and readjust our course as need be, but we keep our end destination in clear and sharp focus.

Have your thoughts led to your dreams?

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Bryan Chau presents The Acronym of My Life – PASSION posted at Success Pen Pal, saying, “passion, mindset, success, business, entrepreneurship, ambition, strategies, etc.”

Flexibility

David Leonhardt presents Work is where the WIFI is (with LogMeIn) posted at The Happy Guy, saying, “Last week I was working remotely. But I was in fact working at home. How could this be?”

Martin Poldma presents An Unconventional Way for Dealing With Stress posted at >Success and Personal Development Blog, saying, “Hey, This is an article I wrote about an unconventional way for dealing with stress, and on how changing one belief about the way you see stress, can actually reduce the negative effects of stress on your body, according to a scientific study.

Money

John Schmoll presents Reasons Why You Should Start Investing For The Long Run posted at Frugal Rules, saying, “Many people want to go for the quick buck when it comes to investing. However, a long term approach in generally best if you’re looking to build wealth and grow a decent retirement portfolio that will last.”

The DREAM Process

presents What your guilty pleasure can teach you posted at Street-side Convos, saying, “Hey Robert its me again:) Just sharing on what we can learn from our guilty pleasures and apply to accelerating our success in life.”

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