Flexibility

Is There Really Balance With Work and Life?

As I watched people speeding from one task to another and facing the daily deluge of ‘work’, I couldn’t help but wonder where all this so-called ‘balance’ was coming into play. The only balance I could see was a scale tipped heavily in one direction, and that was in favor of work, not life. Then as I glanced through the newspaper I was fixated on the latest gas, oil, stock market, and employment numbers. I wasn’t a heavy business buff, but always wanted to get a sense of the world.

Employment was up for a change, a good sign. Then I began to read article, after article on the bad state of full-time employment and the fact that all the new jobs were part-time based. It was a familiar refrain. Somehow, it seemed suspect.

It reminded me of a book I’d read recently by Jacob Vossestein, Dealing with the Dutch, where he argues that people in the Netherlands are highly sceptical of the hierarchical work environment and don’t envy those who climb its rank like Americans, Canadians, or Brits would, whose self-esteem is closely tied to work.

There is an over-emphasis on full-time work which gives the illusion that people are gainfully employed, working, happy and that the economy is a great benefactor. What’s great about this book by Vossestien is that he highlights that the Netherlands actually passed a law that gives employees the right to modify their working hours and organizations can only refuse based on the grounds of sound business reasons. People actually want the ability to modify their working hours so that they have the ‘means’ to create real and meaningful balance in their lives. Results of this law even show that employers believe that they benefited quite well through increased employee satisfaction and it also improved their ability to attract employees.

We can learn from the cultural influences of such countries as the Netherlands, which seems to have found, against all pressure to change them, a recipe for balance that seems to be working. So take solace, getting off the work treadmill isn’t some faraway notion. Instead of looking at these employment ratios as a negative, perhaps we should look at it again through a different lens, as maybe people are taking strides to actually find balance in their lives for a change.

Have you found balance in your life?

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How To Face Problems Without Fear

In the office yesterday, I faced one of those typical and normal problems that always creep up and smack us in the face. Usually, frustration settles in then complete exasperation. Patience levels are usually pushed to the limit and my desire to embark on another ‘life break’ echo resoundingly in my mind. This was no ordinary day, nothing was seemingly going well. My success on little things were being blocked. I had a hell of a problem on my hands that on any other given day I’d be able to resolve without fanfare. I wasn’t too sure what made this day special – in all the wrong ways. I had to take a break to clear my mind.

The fresh air whispering by as I walked through the streets helped me take my mind off of my immediate challenge and to refocus. Then I remembered, I could simply overcome my problem by using the strength of my mental energy. How so? Simply by discovering what surrounds things and why, if at all, there’s a problem.

Problem-solving is simply a way around obstacles, not necessarily to eliminate the obstacle. Perfectionists, for example, have a difficult time because they feel they need to eliminate the obstacle at all costs. A tactician, however, will eliminate the obstacle if he can, but most often it’s more prudent to find a way around it instead. So, this is what I decided to do.

Following four simple steps will help you identify and bypass or overcome obstacles in your way to realizing your life breaks:

  1. Figure it out: Determine if, in fact, there is a problem. Look at what’s happening around you. Why do you feel there’s a problem?
  2. Decide what to do: Once you understand the problem you can now define a strategy to overcome the obstacle.
  3. Act on it: Now you can execute the strategy by putting your energy toward bringing the strategy to life.
  4. Recheck your progress: As you act on overcoming the obstacles, it’s important to monitor your progress and redirect your attention if necessary.

Every good problem requires a decision. The quality and strength of the decision rests largely on whether the decision leveraged a well-structured or ill-structured process. Some decisions we make are repetitive and routine, as the problems themselves are classified so closely together that we employ the same or similar response. However, there are many other decisions we make that can’t leverage past history due to a unique or complex problem. In this case we rely to a large extent on judgment, intuition, and creativity.

Have you overcome a problem lately?

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Diane Mottl, MSW presents Balance is not my middle name (yet)… posted at Being Truly Present, saying, “We hear it all the time: work/life balance; live a more balanced life. On the surface, it sounds straightforward: why would we not want to have balance in our lives. But what is meant by balance? What is it that we are pursuing?”

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Effective Ways to Reframe Your Perspectives

The coffee beans permeating the air with its sweet aroma complemented well the smell of freshly baked bread and pastries. I was engaged in perusing magazines and sipping my latte when I had an interesting encounter with a person whom I really didn’t like in the past.

I remember that she was a pain for bureaucracy and rules-laiden processes to the point of utter annoyance. Our short chitchat revealed that she was retiring in the coming days and couldn’t wait to escape. Escape? I noted in surprise to myself. Escape, indeed. She said her years were filled with dread and pain at the job she had to do, she loathed coming into work every day, she hated what she was tasked to do, but no one would give her other opportunities to showcase her skills and real competencies. Retirement was her first step to redemption and the key to starting over.

I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her, and more so, remorse for how I had perceived her all these years. The perceptions I held of this person were altered forever. Then I began to wonder why I had become so fixated in my view. Then I realized that I had lost my sense of flexibility.

A large part of flexibility is a change in mindset— reframing. This is one of the most difficult concepts for people to grasp because they’re caught up in the nine to five daily grind. They’re stuck on the proverbial treadmill of life, unable to escape.

By changing how you view things, you can see the same thing, but differently, and still have the original sense of understanding, but also a new level of understanding or view that you didn’t have before. I want you to read the following text to get your mind ready for reframing:

Wehn yuo raed tihs ptraicualr paargaprh yuo wlil ntocie soemtihng qutie peucilar but nnothheelss you wlil be albe to unedrsatnd waht is benig siad. Pepole hlod to the noiton taht tehy need ltos of vrey claer inoframtoin to do the tihgns tehy do in lfie; hwoeevr, tihs is frathest form the turth. Wehn you chnage yuor pesrpectvie you can stlil undresatnd and mvoe fowrrad. In tihs paargarph tehre is waht you wolud cosniedr essnetail elmenets misisng, yet you are stlil albe to udnertsnad and mvoe fowrrad. Yuor pesrpcetvie has been rerfmaed yet you are sitll albe to grnaer its menanig, olny now form antoher lnes.

It deosn’t mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoetnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer is at the rghit pclae in the wrod. The rset can be a toatl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit any porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae we do not raed ervey lteter by it slef but the wrod as a wlohe.

Hopefully, this simple exercise will help you see that sometimes we’re so ingrained to following a specific belief or perspective that we convince ourselves that it’s the only way we can garner meaning. That isn’t so. Changing your perspective enhances your understanding of what you already know and enlightens you to things you will begin to know.

We exploit flexibility by training our mind to control perceptions. By reframing, we develop plain, simple, and specific ways for the mind to accomplish the things we desire. To this end, we can challenge why we do the things we do, or why we perceive things the way we do.

Have you found the joy in your life and allowed yourself to break out of the “normal”?

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