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Thoughts Lead to Dreams

The smoke filled ambers released the comforting smell of wood into the air, its crackling sound begging me to lean ever so closer to bathe in the fire’s delight. A hot tea in hand, a wool sweater snuggly wrapping my body, and a smile on my face reminded me of the solace and warmth of the moment. I had no notebook in hand, but my mind nonetheless was allowed to wander unrestrained. Thoughts flickered in and out until one took root and began to grow. I nurtured the thought, ever so gently adding new ideas and permitting my mind to simply just go with it. I hadn’t had a moment like this for some time and relished the resulting euphoria.
I added another piece of wood to keep the flames alive and to continue to fuel the blissful state I was in. The cool breeze was welcome, so too were the birds that joined in as they nestled themselves in the pine bows draped beside me.

Thinking for the sake of thinking is an art, not just for the wise, but the curious. Too often we allow the noise of life to restrict our senses and to distract us from gaining insightful knowledge about our selves. Dreams that we aspire for in life come from these very thoughts. Without them, we cannot dream.

A dream is a higher state of unconsciousness and goal-setting is the conscious actions we take to realize those dreams. The realization of those dreams provides us with a positive effect, pride, satisfaction, and ultimately personal fulfillment. This in turn leads to purpose and purpose is the guiding principle all humans seek! So goal-setting is our key to purpose. We just need to know how to use it to open those doors that lead us to where we want to go.

The process to understanding the realization of your dreams is quite simple. All you have to do is follow the DREAM process. You need to Develop Awareness. This is the initial stages of allowing yourself to imagine. This is where I was today, out in the cold, gleaning what I could from the warmth and smell of the fire to fuel my thoughts and generate dreams.

The second step is Realize Understanding , the process of adding substance to your thoughts. Express Knowledge is where things become real and plans are developed. Assist Belief is the crucial step whereby our motivation leads us to opportunities. And, finally, Make Realizable is the sustained stage where we’re on the journey and readjust our course as need be, but we keep our end destination in clear and sharp focus.

Have your thoughts led to your dreams?

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Other Time Trading Gurus

Time

Bryan Chau presents The Acronym of My Life – PASSION posted at Success Pen Pal, saying, “passion, mindset, success, business, entrepreneurship, ambition, strategies, etc.”

Flexibility

David Leonhardt presents Work is where the WIFI is (with LogMeIn) posted at The Happy Guy, saying, “Last week I was working remotely. But I was in fact working at home. How could this be?”

Martin Poldma presents An Unconventional Way for Dealing With Stress posted at >Success and Personal Development Blog, saying, “Hey, This is an article I wrote about an unconventional way for dealing with stress, and on how changing one belief about the way you see stress, can actually reduce the negative effects of stress on your body, according to a scientific study.

Money

John Schmoll presents Reasons Why You Should Start Investing For The Long Run posted at Frugal Rules, saying, “Many people want to go for the quick buck when it comes to investing. However, a long term approach in generally best if you’re looking to build wealth and grow a decent retirement portfolio that will last.”

The DREAM Process

presents What your guilty pleasure can teach you posted at Street-side Convos, saying, “Hey Robert its me again:) Just sharing on what we can learn from our guilty pleasures and apply to accelerating our success in life.”

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Over Controlling Your Life

Coffee shops seem to be my mecca for relaxation and self-reflection. They offer me refuge from the chaos of work and life in general. People seem to be more relaxed and inviting. Perhaps it’s the fresh aroma of coffee beans and herbal teas that permeate the air or the oven freshness of the gourmet pastries? I’m not sure, but I can say that my thinking is at its best when I embrace the comfort of the lush leather chairs and drink my hot tea. What’s really great is that I don’t try and control anything while here, I just let things happen. And this is likely the most profound insight I’ve discovered.

I can’t help but think about all those people I know, who do the right thing and set goals and dreams for themselves to aspire to. But, upon second glance, they seem to be overly busy on too many things and involved in too many details so as to have absolute control on a precise outcome. I’m very strong on goal setting, as it’s a cornerstone to bringing one fulfillment; however, it’s also important to remain flexible in the attainment of the goal itself, otherwise you’ll find yourself simply going through the motions.

A recent trip by a colleague triggered my fascination with this over exuberance to perfection and control. He had planned a 2-week trip to Paris for one year, noting every place he was going to visit, the times when he was going to visit, and what he was going to buy. It was really quite impressive just how well managed and controlled his experience was going to be.

When he returned, I asked him how he enjoyed the experience. “Wonderful,” he said. “However, next time, I’ll to plan to see some other sites and sounds, as I didn’t have time to do these things.”

How often have you ever heard someone say something like this?

I’m not sure if he liked my candor, but my response was quite spontaneous, “Actually, you had all the time in the world, it’s just that you became so fixated on the details in your planning that you prevented yourself from actually ‘experiencing’ your trip.”

That’s just it, he became so rigid in his planning that he didn’t even change it to experience everything that he was experiencing or wanted to experience. Flexibility in the attainment of our dreams is the key piece that allows us to not only reach them, but to experience them in ways we never imagined. So, as you execute your plans, ensure that they remain flexible. It’s this flexibility that lets you experience the joys of life. So stop planning so much and take the time to experience life as life happens.

Have you experienced life lately?

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Other Time Trading Gurus

Time

ebele presents Increase your fulfilment in life starting today. posted at Street-side convos.

Flexibility

Martin Poldma presents An Unconventional Way for Dealing With Stress posted at Success and Personal Development Blog.

Money

Andrew presents Starting a business: Guide for Graduates – student-finance.com.au posted at student-finance.com.au, saying, “Graduating from university gives you a real chance to put your knowledge to work in your own business, its also likely to be one of the best life experiences you could have. However university cant prepare you for much of the practical issues business owners will face, this article covers some of these fundamental considerations that young entrepreneurs will face.”

Josephine Hagan presents 5 principles successful entrepreneurs use to start a business posted at Effective Enterprise.

DREAM Process

Chaki Kobayashi presents The Ideal Life posted at Our Mind Is the Limit.

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Setting the Right Conditions for Success

The other day I had the typical office encounter, the one whereby you want to let your inner voice shout out loudly how much you’re not impressed or amused with the stupid behavior you face every day from the same people. Yet, you forcefully restrain yourself because you have to eat the next day and don’t want to taint your future in the organization. Their demands grind on you and you find yourself running from one task to the next, never fully completing one, and never getting recognition for all the hard work you undertake. You’ve become Pavlov’s dog, jumping at each request without even blinking because that’s the way it is. Besides allowing the stress to build and hatred to fumigate there are other options.

Science has a funny way of creeping up on you and providing some real sense of usefulness. This was certainly one of those occasions. I certainly realized that I was just like one of Pavlov’s dogs salivating at the first ring of the bell. Darn, it occurred to me that I was conditioned in the workplace to simply react with compliance. It was a sad realization, but one I was determined to change.

This was Ivan Petrovich Pavlov, a Russian physiologist who in the 1890s, who reminded me of the notion of conditioning through his research on the digestive system of dogs and the study of what signals triggered the secretion of saliva. Quite simply he conditioned the dogs to produce saliva by the ringing of a bell just prior to giving them food. What this did was to condition the dogs to produce saliva solely upon the sound of the bell. This was referred to as a conditioned reflex.

So, here I was being conditioned like the dogs, but then if I was being conditioned, I could certainly condition those around me to follow a new learned behavior, one that I’ve created.

How could I make this practical? Some thoughts were that I would lean more on controlled access to me using email and the telephone. I would limit my physical interaction and condition people to contact me at certain times during the day.

People will begin to be conditioned so that when they call they’ll receive a response by email or when they email they’ll receive a response at predefined times during the day. Part of the conditioning process is to be consistent in your response to maintain the conditioned behavior. This is a mighty powerful tool, one that they’ve been using on you all along, as they conditioned you to immediately respond to them. What you’re doing is breaking your conditioned response and redirecting the conditioning back to them. Most often, they won’t even realize what you’ve done, since they’re only acting in a conditioned way.

The second simple act you need to do is to manage your time. You need to book time for yourself to either think or to simply do tasks. In your electronic calendar, “book” time for these activities so they appear as “busy” when someone tries to arrange a meeting. This will control and eliminate interruptions while you’re trying to complete tasks. These simple conditioning techniques can be used in all sorts of ways; the important thing is to find what’s right for you.

Are you conditioned for success?

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Other Time Trading Gurus

Time

Jana presents How To Create More Time posted at Wisdom Ink, saying, “Time is something that is always available to us but that many of us forget to ‘tap’ into. Creating time is as easy as aligning yourself to the belief and perspective that you always have more than enough, and here we show you how to do it. Many are surprised that they can take on more work and responsibilities and still have more than enough time for themselves.”

Matt Barnett presents Are you Open for Business? – Matt Barnett – Expert in Personal Change posted at Matt Barnett – Expert in Personal Change, saying, “What are your opening hours? Do you operate 24 x 7 with a phone glued to your ear? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt from the High Street. Perhaps its time to turn the shop sign to ‘closed’ if only for a while”

Flexibility

Kaitlyn Johnson presents 6 Strategies for Becoming a Morning Person posted at Newborn Care, saying, “You’ve heard it before, even to the point of it becoming annoying. It’s something bears repeating though, because it’s got a lot of wisdom: “The early bird catches the worm.””

Money

Bryan Chau presents A Must Read For Anyone Interested In Becoming An Entrepreneur posted at Success Pen Pal, saying, “entrepreneur, business, strategies, success, chinese proverbs, etc.”

John Schmoll presents Why So Many People Fail at Becoming Debt Free posted at Frugal Rules, saying, “If you’ve ever been in debt you know how difficult it can be to climb your way out of it. That success is generally tied back to having a plan and vision to become free of it – which is something many people miss out on and thus why they fail at ridding themselves of the debt.”

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